Getting to know you better Game

How to create the Game 

Create 10 or more open questions you would like answered. An open question is one that does not provide a yes or no answer this will enable the person responding to the question to elaborate in their own words. When choosing questions also consider that you may be the one answering the question so make them gender neutral and only ask what you are also prepared to answer.

Write each question down on the sticky side of a post -it note and fold it in half by connecting the sticky sections to each other. This will seal the questions and make for easy opening when ready to read them.

You can use different coloured sticky notes to add more flavour to the game.

Include at least 4 wild cards in the game. Simply write the word Wild Card on the relevant sticky note. A wild card when chosen allows for any question to be asked.

Optional – include reverse cards –  Simply Write the word Reverse on the relevant sticky note. A Reverse Card allows for Direction of the game to be changed 

Here are some example questions to ask

  • Tell me about a happy moment in your Childhood
  • What is your love Language and Why 
  • Tell me your top three pet hates 
  • Who is your biggest inspiration
  • If you could like anywhere in the world where would it be and why
  • How important is God in your life 
  • What / who inspires you to keep going?
  • How important is Marriage to you and Why 
  • If you were stranded on an island and could only have two things with you from your present life what would that be 
  • What do you look for in a partner 

How to play the game 

Once you have all your questions you are ready to play the game.

start  by shuffling the notes. You can decide who will draw the card first.

The person that shuffles the card presents to the other party to pick the question to be answered. 

The picker reads and the shuffler answers the question. 

Each card that has been answered is placed in a separate pile and therefore not reshuffled with the remaining cards 

Continue to play until all questions have been answered or you decide to stop playing.  

Note The more intentional your questions the more you will get to know about the other person and the more they will learn about you.  This game can be played over a coffee or can be adapted for a virtual meet up.   

My Story

I wouldn’t say my childhood was much different from most other than my parents divorced when I was 5 years old and I spent most of my growing up life in boarding schools. It is very possible life would have been a lot smoother without the complications of my early years but now looking back the hardship endured during these periods have played a vital role in shaping me to become the woman I am today.

Having gone to University in the UK, I started my career in IT and was fortunate to work for companies I loved. I had this inbuilt desire to be successful in life and strove continuously to meet my goals.

I met my now divorced husband very early in life and we instantly became a family as he had children of his own. Life was seemingly perfect. The Career, The Family, The House , The Car. We were living our best life.

First disaster struck when within 3 months of becoming pregnant, I had a miscarriage. I remember the day clearly. Looking back I realised I hadn’t processed the loss at all. I simply went back to work and focused on what I did best.- Achieving. This was the beginning of my picture crashing down.

Fast forward a few years later, I was separated from my husband and on my own.

I recall walking out of the doctors office to be told I was going thru the menopause at the age of 35. My aspirations of becoming a biological mother to a child shattered.

As I desperately tried to regain some sort of life. I realised I was clutching at very short straws. I launched a business. It failed. I launched another business it failed. Now I had 3 failed businesses, no family, no house, no car. No way forward.

I remember crying out to God in pain over what my life had become. Why did I have to fall so far. Why could I not see a way out.

I would hear the words of Isaiah 54:2 repeatedly in my head.

Enlarge the place of your tent, stretch your tent curtains wide, do not hold back, tighten your cords strengthen your stakes

I would respond – That is easier said than done when you have no tent. Little did I realise that this word was encouraging me to look beyond my current circumstances and believe that all is possible.

2018 was the year I made a conscious decision to turn my life around. I had to physically and emotionally pick myself off the ground and start to make steps in the direction of what I wanted.

It was time to build a new home. A home based on my core values, a home built on trust and integrity, a home with a firm foundation.

Today I am the founder of a thriving company which provides Education and Hair Loss solutions to Hair Salons so they can make a difference in the lives of individuals struggling with their own confidence.

I live in a beautiful city and I am blessed with the opportunity to see and experience beauty all around me.

But my journey has just began. I am now on a mission to recreate my family. Bringing with me all the skills I have learned along the way. Owning my pain and transforming it into love and joy.

So why don’t you come along and journey with me.