Letting go of control

Control can be disguised as many things. Is the desire to be in control just as bad as being controlled. Are both a form of prison. One of self the other of others.
I am in deep thought over this question. As I reflect on the emotions I get when I feel controlled versus when I feel the need to be in control.  Can I honestly distinguish between the two. 
Am I trapped in a false sense of security.  Is it merely a power struggle. Are there winers or losers in this game ? Am I weak if I loose control or am I strong if I resist it. 
As I ponder this thought I feel the freedom that comes with letting go, the understanding that whenever I seek to control I loose, and whenever I decide to let go, I gain.